Creating customized relationships that work for you Here’s the only kind of math I love — the formula that governs my relationships now. I believe every relationship combination is its own special equation, based on two foundational beliefs: Everyone is unique and thus, irreplicable (unable to be replicated!) Chemistry between…

It’s not that they aren’t real, it’s that our fears are out of control. Just when you think you’ve unpacked most of the deep down residue of your purity culture upbringing, something smacks you right in the face with the fact that you haven’t, not completely. Could You Get Tested? I have now been…

You’re about to be full up….here’s how to stop before you overflow The term polysaturated always makes me (and other people) laugh because it’s so traditionally evocative of “polyunsaturated fat” on food labels. It’s a good thing, because you want your fat that way, I guess. Here’s the definition in…

It’s both unpredictable….and completely predictable! Preliminary stages: “I have this thought that no one else does…” “Wait, that’s crazy.” “Is it though? Seems common. hmmm.” “Wait, maybe…there are others…” {looks for a podcast on polyamory} “I’m going to see if I can find out more…” Stage 1: Sounds like a…

I like you. I love you. I trust you. (In this order.) Dear Reader, I caution you that you may hear some details that you would prefer not to in the writing ahead. We aren’t that close, are we? …

An investigation of the term and penis perceptions and preferences… I was standing in a long hallway at a perfectly normal suburban house, wearing just some mesh lingerie, when the host, who was doing a superlative job of making everything run smoothly, asked if I had any other desires. It…

My life has gotten a bit bizarre, but in a delightful way…here are some things that are (mostly) true. Can you figure out what is slightly exaggerated? A. I have a boyfriend and a husband and a girlfriend and they not only know ABOUT each other, they know and like…

Women have the natural advantage here, but only if they claim it I’m not sure if the term “orgasm privilege” is actually in the lexicon yet or not, but if not, let’s add it. …

It matters that you know, and that you do… It’s taken me a bit to process this but I have the contrast that I need to do it, I think. {Trigger warning: sexual consent violations} Pussy Eating Bandit? I was have a delightful time at the sex party, floating on all the stimulus…