Finally got my dream of a consistent local poly-kinky meet up group, and it’s been really fun bringing people together. We like to joke about the correlations for poly / kinky folks — so I made this little survey at check in. Lots of ADHD! Risk taking, intense niche interests…

What he thinks happened and what actually happened, is a tale to tell…. At this time last year, I was on a trip with my closest girlfriends, adventuring. I was happily away to a New Orleans, a place I’d always wanted to go. It was a new year, and I…

The Poetry of January It feels like you desire me only to consume me to sate yourself in a needy sense, not a greedy sense and I understand that, it’s human-ness but I also see that is is not, you looking at me to see me as I am or to wonder about my…

Not just a date that may or may not be anything — a date where you know, at this moment, that they are likely having sex. It’s weird, I’ll admit that upfront. But it’s happened more times this year as I have had steady partners, and I’ve learned to breathe…

(Updated all the time, republished occasionally — feel free to add suggestions!) In progress, of course, because language and relationships are always evolving. And, some of them are shorthand I invented (as denoted by * which means I invented it) but also…could come from the poly-kink internet-ether. 5-minute float*: the…

Why we end up here is no coincidence. I was talking to an ex-Mormon at a church function the other night and got to introduce him to this phrase “high demand religion.” It does not meant that the religion is in high demand, like, everyone wants to get some, but…

What’s a rebound? How much time do you need? The lack of being alone… I’ve often thought about how people commonly view break ups, with people I know who tend to data in mono, linear ways, and how pop culture portrays that relationship style, ending and beginning and ending, with…

Nominate them here… While the term “unicorn” tends to mean a bisexual woman looking to form a triad with a heterosexual couple, I find the term to be useful for rare things in polyamory and dating. Let’s make a list together: People who understand polyamory? I got off of Bumble and OKCupid because I…