It’s both unpredictable….and completely predictable!
Preliminary stages:
“I have this thought that no one else does…”
“Wait, that’s crazy.”
“Is it though? Seems common. hmmm.”
“Wait, maybe…there are others…”
{looks for a podcast on polyamory}
“I’m going to see if I can find out more…”
Stage 1: Sounds like a lot of work.
“But…it works for some people…intriguing”
{reads blogs, wheels turning}
“Would it work for me?”
“Let’s think through how I bring it up…”
{waits}
{talks to therapist}
{tries out idea on a trusted friend or two}
Stage 1b: Let’s seriously talk about it …again
“What do you think?”
“Can we try it?”
“Let’s think through logistics….”
{reads books, slightly daunted}
“We can always change our minds….”
{tries to engage in two person research}
{looks at busy calendar}