It’s being in cahoots, “up to something” and connecting for human experiences, which *can* include sex.
It is an interesting impulse, when you want someone else, to desire to be closer to them…and many people think that sex is the ultimate closeness. This may be because of our strange American oversexed but prudish morals, but it may also be because of how few people you are supposed to allow to see you in the throes of passion. (It can be intensely vulnerable, and animalistic, and sometimes, kind of gross…but in a good way.)
It is vulnerable, the sharing of bodies, of bodily fluids, the fear of discovery, the strange sounds and faces that our partner is allowed to see. There is the intimacy of another’s body parts generally kept from view, the amount of time together, the clandestine plans to meet and see each other for the purposes of the erotic. There is also the delight of knowing what turns someone one while still seeing them in the vanilla, banal light of day.
Oh, Yes!
Sex is intimate for a bunch of reasons, including the communication and consent aspects prior to the physical engagement. Add in the physical trust required, and the…