If it’s not The One, Weddings, Marriage and Kids….how do you calculate relationship success?
I’ve written about this before, and I have some more milestones to share!
Basically, if you are dating someone for a certain amount of time (say, six months) that both you and other people who aren’t even in the relationship may somehow conclude that it’s time for the next step.
But poly life is not that linear.
The Base:
Saying you’re polyamorous is the beginning…on a dating app, on a date, coming out to a friend or someone in your social circle. Then when you have a potential partner, someone you’re interested in, conveying that to your inner circle and partners is the next step. My people begin to hear names repeated and they recognize the set of details associated with particular names.
Once it becomes a regular thing, there’s the pattern of when you see each other for date, leaving stuff at each other’s places, and a groove of how you communicate and relate physically. Eventually, there’s feelings….feelings noticed, feelings caught, feelings admitted.
I am in polyamory so that I can share abundant love, so I am fairly quick to see the unique aspects of people, admire and appreciate them, and tell them!