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I Hate Condoms, Too.

North Star

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Even as a woman who loves sex…Let’s talk about why.

It was a very busy holiday season, sexually. I have started off the new year well-sated, with three parties and two new partners. That means, a lot of condom use, and accompanying consternation. I hate it. It’s way more complicated because of a bunch of different factors. I will explain….I don’t actually hate the way condoms feel (it’s not that different to me), but I hate how men make the use of condoms so challenging.

I have already expounded on my thoughts on the best ways to avoid sexually transmitted infections, and recommended the book Strange Bedfellows for additional context. There are also weird themes by men about how they ALL need the Magnum size. (Great marketing by Trojan!) But those are really focused on multiple regular partners. Let’s talk about the exceptions — the random encounters, the new partners, the men* you aren’t sure you can trust to tell you what you need to know in the moment. (This is quite tricky, as Informed is one of the five components of Consent.)

Play Parties

This is one of the inherent risks of play parties — small house parties at least have warm connections so you…

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