Is this relationship dead on arrival? Wasting away? Who can tell?

Guess the Ghosts?

North Star

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If you’re looking for the clues, do you know who?

I would say I’m a pretty analytic, intuitive person. I notice things. I remember things. But dating men…sometimes, I’m surprised.

I have enough recent experience to feel like I’ve learned some things but it’s only in retrospect sometimes that I see I was looking at the wrong things.

Let’s see how you’d do.

Scenario 1: Scorpio

Here’s what I focused on: quirky, cute, chemistry, lots of fun, offbeat sense of humor, that he made me a beautifully detailed dinner, that he didn’t try to sleep with me right away, our interest in talking about esoteric and occult things.

Here’s what I missed: his primary girlfriend was out of town so he had time for me right then, his tales about “completely restarting his life”, the death of his son last year, his round-the-clock job and school commitments.

How that work out?

a. Ghosted

b. Dramatic break up

c. We follow each other on social media

Scenario 2: Cancer

Here’s what I focused on: great conversation, thoughtful, a bit shy, good sexual skills, wanted me to take the lead, interesting work, strong, talked openly about his past relationships and family relationships.

Here’s what I missed: had been deployed overseas for nearly a year, unexpected break up and move out of his long-term girlfriend, loss of his dogs as a result, new to polyamory, not a steady communicator.

How that work out?

a. Ghosted

b. Pops back into my messages every month or so

c. Only responds to sexy pics

Scenario 3: Aquarius

Here’s what I focused on: how attentive he was to me, his impressive BDSM experience, that when I had an issue he explained rather than avoided, feelings of love and lust, the quality of the connection, the techniques of sex that were new to me, the novelty of windows of poly outness, the ways he pushed me to try new things.

Here’s what I missed: his deteriorating relationship with his wife, his failure to manage work stress well, his belief…

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North Star

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