Do we want people to be skilled at sex or not?
Our culture pushes two opposing messages:
- We want people to be good at sex.
- We don’t want people to need sexual education.
In what other circumstances would we encourage people to do something that we expect them to be good or talented at, with no practice and no information?
No instruction manual, just an emphasis on magical compatibility and instant intimacy. It’s just setting everyone up for failure!
(Also mixed in is that we want don’t want certain people to have sex. Old people, gay people, ugly people, fat people, etc. How bizarre in a culture where sexuality is used for marketing all kinds of products…or is that part of the point? Only young, hot bodies are sexy, and those are the only ones that you should aspired to be like. If you can’t, buy our product to feel better about yourself.)
Good at Sex
What does it mean to be “good at sex” anyway?
I think it means skilled at providing pleasure, and it SHOULD mean skilled at…