I have searched for who to credit for this and my best guess is: Integrated Care professionals in Virginia.

Everyone Needs Therapy… Yes, Even You.

North Star

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It’s been a tough couple of years for mental health. (And, of course, it’s always a tough time for people with underlying mental health issues.) One of the challenges though is that good emotional hygiene seems to be one of the first things to drop when things get busy or things go wrong.

If you aren’t familiar with the term, emotional hygiene is kind of like self-care plus psychology. It’s doing things to take care of your needs, but also processing your feelings. Talking with trusted friends, journaling, spending time alone, exercising and mulling things over, working through what you want, practicing hard conversations you might need to have.

For me, a lot of my emotional hygiene was happening while I was hiking during the pandemic. There was nothing better than spending time with my thoughts in the woods, frequently talking aloud to myself and clamming up if I saw anyone else on the trail.

Since I’m an external thinker…this works for me.

But then, I broke my foot and hiking was suddenly not an option. On top of being stuck at home, I was stuck now in just a few rooms of my house. I floundered. I was sad. I spent a lot more time online. I had to find other ways to work on my emotional hygiene. I talked to my friends, in person, and online. And, talked to my therapist online. (Hooray that this is an option. Plus, she’s fantastic in guiding me even though I don’t see her that frequently anymore.)

There’s a joke about friends being “poor people’s therapy” but honestly, there’s sometimes nothing better than a trusted friend to listen and put what you’re saying in the context of what they know about you. They can give you advice and ask helpful questions. Old friends sometimes add in notes about what they know about you as a person over time which can be extremely helpful.

But sometimes, friends aren’t the right people. Like, when you have a problem that just keeps reoccurring over and over. Or you have stated your needs multiple times but your partner can’t meet those needs.

You’re stuck. They’re stuck. Your friends are tired of hearing about it. They have weighed in. You are still stuck.

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North Star

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