All the Words You Need for Poly Kinky Sexy Times!

Updated for 2025….When you do new things, you need new words! The comprehensive glossary, now in its permanent home here.

Lots of new updates in the terms and concepts you should know, here. I’m now continually updating this version. I challenge you to use one of these in conversation today and see how it goes…report back in the comments!

Language, and relationships, are always evolving. And, some of them are shorthand I invented (as denoted by *) but also…could come from the poly-kink internet-ether.

Special Sextion:

I fell into an internet hole of attraction and sexuality terms, and there are SO many of these, I just want to list them here and see which ones actually stick to the lexicon. (The sexicon? Oh, I just can’t stop myself.) Watch how the delineations are shifting our perspective — new words tell us about the underlying philosophical changes.

Less about how you are and how you identify and more about what you’re attracted to.

• ceterosexual / skoliosexual / allotroposexual: primarily attracted to non-binary or transgender people.
• gynosexual / gensexual / femmesexual: attraction to feminine presenting people.
• spectrasexual: romantically and sexually attracted to multiple…