Women have the natural advantage here, but only if they claim it I’m not sure if the term “orgasm privilege” is actually in the lexicon yet or not, but if not, let’s add it. …

It matters that you know, and that you do… It’s taken me a bit to process this but I have the contrast that I need to do it, I think. {Trigger warning: sexual consent violations} Pussy Eating Bandit? I was have a delightful time at the sex party, floating on all the stimulus…

The liminal space of being poly but not wanting to explain it to everyone… We are in a new era, and it’s a bit confusing as I feel like more people in my life know that I am polyamorous. There are the people who know, the people who suspect and…

The raised bar is a double-edged sword In a chat with a poly friend last week, we discussed the value of being treated exquisitely well by our partners and how it reshaped our identities to a degree…most of this is due to cultural conditioning for women, that somehow we don’t…

One of the things that my lover and I have in common is that we like exhibitionism, and over the weekend we again had sex in the public area of a sex party. Exhibit A The first time it kind of “happened” where we were at a party and sat in a…

It’s a trope…but how much truth is there to it? I see a lot of cultural jokes lately, but possibly I’m just more tuned into them now that I know I’m bisexual (technically, pansexual.) …

What I’ve learned after 6 years exploring polyamory — When I first learned about polyamory, I was at a women’s retreat and it was a huge “ah ha” moment for me. I had been poking around, trying to figure out if anyone else felt like I did, that I wanted to connect more intimately with other people but couldn’t…

I am immersed in some overlapping work, personal and civic things that made me stop and gasp in the mirror this morning with a realization...our obsession with purity is EVERYWHERE. Stay with me on this….I hadn’t read the employee handbook, but yesterday it told me that large, distracting tattoos are…

I’m a very process-oriented person, so my approach to finding polyamorous play partners is no different than anything else in my life. Try, refine, test it, revise, repeat. But the primary source of new people in this lifestyle is dating apps, and those can be quite tricky. You have to…