Or, questionnaire woman, both are true. I co-hosted a poly-kinky-queer meet up over the weekend and it was delightful — people from different parts of my life, and times in my life. …

Sex ed for reals, though. So, my life is weird, absolutely. But between my life and my work and my civic commitments…I came to this important conclusion: Being a Human is Gross and Precarious. This week’s themes: Infectious disease Hygiene Bodily fluids More than one sex partner at a time …

How to navigate situations where your loves’ other partners create stress and drama — I think I invented the phrase “metamour burns” as a way of specifying baggage from past relationships, particularly for polyamorous people — it came from a guy I knew who opened up his marriage and his wife met a man “who didn’t care what happened to us.” I declined to…

An important skill for polyamorists to learn One of the reasons people think they can’t do polyamory is that they can’t rid themselves of jealousy, which in our culture is an overwhelming feeling that we have very little practice managing. Thus, it terrifies people to consider digesting it internally. We…

In public, in private, in a romantic relationship, in a friendship — and WHO DECIDES? Maybe I’m watching too much Bridgerton (how dare you!) but it’s fascinating as a polyamorous straight-monogamous-presenting-woman to consider “propriety” in 2022 in my own life. There are multiple occasions where young unmarried women are in…

Come now or come later — eventually, you’re going to have to experiment I can’t take credit for this term, coined by the inimitable Dan Savage, that mimics the Amish term for the adolescent rite of passage: “rumspringa.” It even sounds a little bit like a combination of “spring” and…

One of my favorite things is to observe subcultures…and a few years ago when I went to my first sex party, I was entranced. There is the “normalcy” cover, where everyone has drinks and mingles, and there’s a dance party. Meanwhile, behind the veil is the human inclination for hedonism. …